Friday, October 29, 2010


Be warned. I'm about ready to write a controversial blog post. And I'm likely to offend some with my thoughts. But, like the Elephant in the Room, it's time to address the arrogance I'm seeing in the wedding industry.

I'll be the first to admit, I love what I do. Starting this business from the ground up and watching it grow over the past four years has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. I look forward to stepping foot into my office each morning. And I love watching my staff grow and develop in their roles, too.

But as my mom always says, 'Let's call a spade, a spade.' Planning weddings and events is not rocket science. And I'd hardly compare myself to the amazing men and women who are saving lives every day or fighting for the freedom of this country. Is what I'm doing important? Of course it is. I'm not trying to diminish that at all. But, outside of the wedding industry, no one really knows who I am. I haven't developed a cure for cancer. And I'm hardly a celebrity. Frankly put, I'm hired help. Just as all people in this industry are. Albeit, I try to be great hired help, but nonetheless, I'm hired to do a job and that's what I do.

I'm rather disgusted by so much of the arrogant behavior that I see within this industry by many planners, florists and photographers. Whatever happened to doing a job because you love it versus doing it for fame and notoriety and bragging about it all over the world wide web? I don't see anything wrong with setting yourself apart from the competition, but I do have a problem with people acting like they know it all and turning their noses down at those who they deem less important in this industry. And I especially don't like those who won't give you the time of day because you're not on the 'cutting-edge' of this industry.

Everyone, take a deep breath. We're talking about planning weddings, here. People have been getting married for hundreds of years and somehow they managed to do it long before companies like mine existed or before there were blogs and books and websites. So, let's all stop taking ourselves so seriously. Let's recognize that we have value to others and what we're doing is important. But, it's nothing to be arrogant about.



Meghan said...

You're cutting edge to me ; ) I love these controversial posts, btw!!

Paul Retherford said...

Totally agree with your post. Kind of sick of people being fake in order to try to get a leg up too. Humility and Professionalism do go hand in hand.

Pink Tulip said...

Thank you for this post, Jodi. When I was searching for a videographer to do my wedding, I searched and inquired various vendors. One vendor from Seattle, WA was very rude because I didn't hire them and sent me this 4 paragraph email about how great they are and how bad their competition was. I understand that vendors want to set themselves apart from their competitors, but I believe that each one brings something different to the table. I was very disgusted with this persons email. I think that all vendors such treat their clients with respect, as well as their colleagues or industry competitors.

Anonymous said...

Amen !! Been in this industry for over 20 years and without a doubt the arrogance is my pet peeve and seems to get progressively worse. They take a course and now think they are the be all and end all. Snootiness has no place when you are hired help, plain and simple. So glad to have read this post.